When I was visiting at my sister’s
for the Thanksgiving holiday, one of the things I did was to watch the
video, Meet the Parents, along with my two nephews, my niece, and
one of my nephew’s almost-fiancé. We didn’t watch the video once or
twice, but three times. And, each time we laughed all the more at some
of the outrageous things that happened to one poor guy.
If you haven’t seen the movie,
it’s about a teacher who brings her boyfriend home to meet her parents
which is, as you know, the first step in saying, "I’m pretty
serious about this guy." Without revealing the details, let it
suffice it to say that everything this poor guy does to ingratiate
himself to his girlfriend’s father---whose name is Jack---falls
nothing short of absolute, complete, and unmitigated disaster. His
failures, however, are not so much due to the fact that this poor guy is
trying so hard to please Jack but more so because, in Jack’s mind, no
boy is good enough for daddy’s little girl. It is after Jack once
again proves himself successful in driving out from his daughter’s
life yet another potential suitor that Jack is forced to confront the
truth. It is wife who quietly, yet sternly, asks, "Isn’t it time,
Jack, that you thought about your daughter and her happiness instead of
yourself and what you want for her?"
I not going to tell you how Meet
the Parents ends because I’ve already suggested what’s important
for us today in light of John the Baptist’s call for repentance as the
only way to prepare for the coming of God’s kingdom. The important
thing Meet the Parents teaches is that, unless we change the way
we think about important things, we will---like Jack---delude ourselves
into believing that we are good and loving people. Furthermore, we’ll
believe with all of our heart that we are doing what’s in the best
interests of those we profess to love. But, in reality, what we’re
really doing is nothing other than feeding our own selfish
self-interests cleverly disguised within the costume of
"care." We stand a great distance from the truth because we
have freely chosen to live in a delusion. And, sadly, the truth is
evident to everybody but ourselves.
Today’s gospel relates John the
Baptist’s ministry in the Judean desert and alongside the Jordan
River. John is preaching about the need to "repent from sin,"
specifically rendered in Matthew’s text by the word
"metanoia" (in Greek, metanoia).
Metanoia is an important word in this gospel, one many Sunday homilists
over the decades have unfortunately mistranslated as "change your
heart" when, in reality, the word means "change your
mind." What John the Baptist was preaching---and what Jack’s wife
was communicating through her pointed question---was that, in order to
prepare for the coming of God’s kingdom, we must not only change how
we feel---which, in itself is no trifling matter---but, more
significantly, to change how we think---which is, undoubtedly, an
infinitely more exacting matter. And, unless we change how we think, it
is impossible to love anyone other than ourselves. Where there is no
love, there is no God, as St. John reminds us in his gospel. "God
is love. And he who abides in love abides in God and God in him."
In short, the antithesis of God’s kingdom is the heart where selfish
self-interest reigns. Repenting from sin, then, means "changing how
we think." And, by changing how we think provides an indication
that we really are serious about preparing for the coming of God’s
kingdom.
Well, then, what concretely might
that mean?
Consider the following examples
to appreciate the point John the Baptist is trying to drive home to his
congregation and which, by the way, offended some people so much so that
they schemed and eventually succeeded in having the Baptist executed.
- For the first example, take a
strident racist or supremacist. For those of you old enough to
remember, think about someone like Archie Bunker. It doesn’t
matter who this person doesn’t like, because it would be much
easier for him to change how he feels about those he considers
inferior, wouldn’t it be, than for him to change how he thinks
about them? A racist or supremacist could more easily tolerate
working beside someone he considers inferior than to change his mind
so that he might appreciate those people as human beings equally
deserving of his respect.
But, there are less flagrant
forms of racism and supremacism to consider. One form manifests itself
in the person who treats others with contempt because "it’s
either my way or the highway." No one else could possibly have a
good idea or suggestion to offer and, were someone so audacious as to
broach an alternative, this person would immediately dismiss it
thinking to himself---if not uttering aloud---"don’t confuse me
with the facts, my mind is already made up." Caught up in his own
self-serving world, this person will listen only to himself. Consider
how extremely difficult it would be for him to change his mind.
Whether it’s the extreme or
less flagrant forms of racism and supremacism, the kingdom of God is
very far from such people even though they may believe they are devout
and religious people.
- Or, take a person who, for a
variety of reasons, has written certain family members out of his
life. Perhaps it’s an in-law, an immediate family member, or a
former friend. It would be much easier, wouldn’t it, for this
fellow to change how he feels about those people, than it would be
for him to change how he thinks about them? "Honey, would you
do it for me, please. Just this year. Come on, it’s Christmas for
God’s sake," his wife might plead. The amount of energy it
would take for this individual just to be pleasant might seem like
an awful lot of energy. In reality, however, it is only a minimal
amount, especially when compared to the amount of energy it would
take for him to change how he thinks about the people he has written
out of his life. Think about what it would take for him to roll out
the welcome mat and to greet those people with genuine warmth,
generosity, and true affection.
It’s easy to talk about being
a good Christian and a good Catholic. But, when love for sinners is
entirely absent from one’s heart, one is neither a good Christian
nor a good Catholic. For them, the kingdom of God is very distant.
- As a third example, consider
the person who blames the Church for everything. Maybe you’ve
never met anyone like this but, in my experience, it’s more
commonplace than you’d think. If it wasn’t the pastor who said
something or did something sixty years ago to justify why the Church
is evil and corrupt, then it’s the marriage tribunal that’s
interested "only in money and not in my pain" or the
principal or a teacher in the parochial school who’s
"destroyed my child’s life." "Would Christ treat
anyone this way?" this individual asserts in
self-justification. It would be much easier, wouldn’t it, for this
individual to change how he feels about Church and the people
working for the Church than it would be for that person to change
how he thinks about the Church and the people working for it? To
move beyond blame-finding and finger-pointing would take a lot of
energy, indeed. But, changing how one thinks about what people have
said and done, to forgive them, and to move beyond one’s
self-chosen spite and hostility is far more taxing.
It needn’t be the Church or
any other institution for that matter. It may well be a former boss,
neighbor, fiancé, or friend. It doesn’t matter. They did something
that hurt us but we’re unwilling to let go of it. As a consequence,
we choose to hold grudges and to suffer, sometimes for decades long
after we can remember the details of what happened. Think about all of
the empty and vacuous holidays these people spend, all the while
pretending to be happy. But, having no love in their hearts, the
kingdom of God is very far from people who blame others for
everything.
The point John the Baptist is
making is that, in order to prepare for the coming of God’s kingdom,
people need to change how they think about things…especially those
things they take for granted as acceptable but, using the standard of
God’s kingdom, are completely unacceptable. In particular, John the
Baptist challenges people to change how they think about those things
that provide justification for not loving or caring or giving a hoot
about other human beings. It is much easier for people to change how
they feel---they can control outbursts of outrage and even flash a false
smile---than to change how they think. But, unless people change how
they think, their actions are meaningless, hollow and devoid of any
love. Without doubt, the kingdom of God is very far from these sinners,
just as it was from the Pharisees and Sadducees who John condemned as a
"brood of vipers" for their religious hypocrisy.
"Produce good fruit as
evidence of your repentance," John challenged his congregation. St.
Paul, in his letter to the Romans was more to the point, writing
"Welcome one another, then, as Christ welcomed you." This is
how sinners prepare for the coming of God’s kingdom. They make
straight their paths so that the Holy Spirit can drive the darkness out
of their hears and fill them with the light of love. For these sinners,
the kingdom of God is not some far, distant, otherworldly external
place, the reward for "being good." Rather, the kingdom of God
is the promise of what will be theirs in their hearts, homes, and world.
"Repent," John the
Baptist says, "for the kingdom of God is at hand." It is as
near as changing how you think!